The Lesbian Experience Of Making A Baby

Posted: September 2nd, 2010 | Author: social-butterfly | Filed under: Dating | Tags: , , | No Comments »

INTRODUCTION:   THE PERFECT SPERM BANK

Deciding to have a baby is a very big decision.  It’s even more tasking when you have a  Lesbian couple who not have to only deal with the backlash of what others in society may think but we also have to deal with the daunting task of not having ready access to Sperm.

When we decided we wanted to start our family, my partner had just graduated from Nursing School and had just turned 35 years old.I just turned 43 and was ready to have a baby 10 years ago.  But we both wanted to wait until after her graduation, as I had already had my college degree.

We began our journey by searching the web for various Sperm Banks that would cater to our special need of Donor Sperm.Sperm is not readily available to Lesbian Couples..  After searching the web for several weeks we were able to find several reputable companies that were willing to provide that service, for a fee of course.

We could have chosen a Lesbian Owned Sperm Bank, Pacific Reproductive Services, www.pacrepro.com, or several others such as California Cryobank, www.cryobank.com and many others but we chose to go with California Cryobank because they had more choices.

Here is a list of a few others we at twomommys.com looked at:

1. Xytex   www.xytex.com

2. Cryogenic Laboratories  www.cryolab.com

3. Fairfax  www.fairfaxcryobank.com

4. New England Cryogenic Center   www.necryogenic.com

There is an art to picking which “Baby Daddy” will suit your Sperm deficiency.  Do I choose, brown eyes or black eyes, square chin or round chin or college degreed or uneducated?  All of these decisions will hopefully get you to picking the right characteristics so that you can birth the “perfect baby”.We ended up picking a donor with long gorgeous eyelashes, a medium-sized face and almond eyes.He also has an oval shaped face, average forehead, medium skin tone, a few freckles and dimples and thick, curved eyebrows.  The nose is round, average with an average nostril flare.  We wanted large, full lips.  Curly hair was a must, medium length and average fullness.  And to top it all off, we wanted straight teeth, to make sure my baby had a beautiful smile.  Basically, I am describing someone who looks a little like me.

It was important that we chose those characteristics because my partner would be carrying the baby to full term, so I wanted someone who would look a little like me.  And I think we got as close, to looking like me, as possible.

Even though we had to go through this process of finding an actual donor, I must say it was an easy process.  Each Sperm bank was easy and friendly to use.It provided a great deal of information for us to make an informed decision. Each Sperm bank is FDA approved and the donors from those facilities meet FDA eligibility requirements.  So we felt very comfortable going through the process of picking the right donor for our baby.

Some people might ask, “Why didn’t you just sleep with a guy and get pregnant”?  Well the answer is that we are in a committed relationship.  Not only are we committed to each other, but we didn’t want the added hassle of having a third parent in the picture.  It was important to us, as a couple, that we raise our child alone, without the interference of another parent in the picture.  Oh believe me there will be plenty of friends and male influences around, should we have a boy.As a couple, it was important to us that we raise our children ourselves without interference.  We’re ok with our baby having Two Mommies.

In the end, we think we picked the right Sperm Donor and we moved on to the next process of finding a Fertility Specialist to help us in our next step of actually getting pregnant.