How to Overcome Jealousy

Posted: September 14th, 2009 | Author: social-butterfly | Filed under: Dating, Marriage | Tags: , , , , , | No Comments »

Nothing good comes of jealousy. Jealousy is a negative trait and can destroy an otherwise good relationship. If you tend toward jealousy you had better learn how to overcome jealousy before your relationship falls victim to the green eyed monster.

I’ve been looking into this problem quite a bit and I found good advice on web-pages like How to Overcome Jealousy. Here’s some of what I’ve learned.

To begin, why do you think your jealous? What are your excuses? You have to know yourself before you can make progress.



Remember that you do have a choice. We may not be able to control what happens in our world we can always control our response. We don’t need to respond with jealousy. It may be more comfortable to blame external circumstances for the way you are, but that’s an immature response. An adult accepts control of their response to life circumstances.

People choose jealousy for many reasons. For many people, it’s insecurity.

Related to that is a fear of being cheated on. But being jealous and accusatory and monitoring your partners every move will drive them away rather than bring them closer.

Some people use jealous demands as a way to control their partner. It’s a power trip. it’s not hard to imagine how this could eventually damage the relationship.

To go back to a recurring theme, we do have a choice. If we make different choices, we’ll get different outcomes. Which you think is most likely to get a positive result – acting in a controlling, jealous manner or approach and your partner with love trust and respect?

If you continuously treat someone with distrust and try to control every aspect of their life, they may try to acquiesced you wishes out of a sense of obligation but they’re unlikely to respond joyfully and with love. Again, jealousy is a negative emotion and its results will be negative.

Since intimate relationships are very complex and emotionally charged, it’s not surprising we have difficulty with them. Part of the problem is that none of us are taught specifically how to deal with relationships as we grow up. Were left to our own devices and it shows.

With the information resources available today it doesn’t have to be that way.

A good overall site I found was The Relationship Fix.

If you’re in a serious relationship (or even if you just want to be in one someday) I highly recommend you check out the Save My Marriage Today Premium Home Study Course Review.

Based on that review, I got the course. even though the title says “Save My Marriage”,the course would help any long-term relationship. A couple who goes through this program will have much better relationships than 90% of the population.

 

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