1) If you chose to do the breaking up don’t keep agonizing over the decision, You did it for probably very good reasons. Constantly churning over in your mind different scenarios is not going to help anybody and will only prolong your hurt. Instead look to the future.

2) Put your feelings down on paper. It can be a great release of stress to simply write your feelings down. It can help you to get everything into perspective and will perhaps aid you in seeing that things are not all so bad after all.

3) Get organized. take some time to get your house freshened up and looking organised again . Doing this helps take your mind off things. Take all the old belongings of your ex put them in a suitably sized case and store them away somewhere safe. There is no need to keep having to look at those photos of you together every time you go into a room. Some people choose to burn them and this can be a good release and is very final but to my mind there must have been some good times that are worth remembering so don’t be in a rush to do that just make sure they are out of sight.

4) Start getting out and about again. Avoid sitting at home wallowing in your own self pity and instead start to socialise again but of course avoid binge drinking.

5) Release it. Take a little bit of time to mentally go through what happened, what lessons can be learned and make a note of these. Take responsibility for the mistakes you made and accept the situation you are now in. From this position it is much easier to let go of your ex and move on to a new and better life.

OK, with those points in mind you will find getting over a break up and dealing with a break up much easier and quicker to get over your ex and start living the life you deserve once more.