When Fear Comes Into Self and Relationships

Posted: October 3rd, 2009 | Author: social-butterfly | Filed under: Dating | Tags: , , , , , , , , | No Comments »

Peace in this World by Siddhaswarupananda

Why is it that humans are so scared to commit themselves to loving others?  People are fearful of the society they live in.  They spend more time troubling about what others will think of their relationship till they forget the most vital behaviors given to humans. 

It has traditionally been heard that if you like, you might be considered nave.  When you’re happy, then you’re just straightforward and not worth taking significant.  If one is generous and care for the well being of others, they are considered suspects.  Forgiving is a sign of weakness.  Developing trust in others, you are certain to be considered a fool.  When you are taking all the above gestures and add them up to get an opinion, you could be considered afake. 


Folks need to realize that in order to form a relationship there are such a lot of actions to take under consideration.  One wishes to know about love ; compassion ; tenderness ; caring ; sharing and the way to relate to another.  Without these fine features, life is empty though you may be in the best of health.  You may have ain exceedingly comfortable home and your life feels empty.  Even if many humans know this behavior, they spend very little time making an attempt to correct their behaviour. 

Now, you will find many folks that are so sophisticated that they cant admit to the bewilderment and unhappiness that they have let their ego get them into.  This may be devastating to a relationship.  Learning to share your love with another can be extremely overpowering.  Humans have such little trust when it comes to the flow of life.  There is always that need for permanency or continuity, when the sole unchanging quality in life as in love should be expansion and liberty. 

Although so many people are afraid of a relationship, you continue to find ill-equipped humans forming friendships ; marrying ; and raising families with no money to meet the overwhelming demands they may have to face right away.  Siddhaswarupananda has many writings on life and curbing fear.

It is terribly strange that even realizing the desperate need for relating, one may continue through much of their life only to take part in a careless idle behavior, that may only relate in one becoming alone. 

There might have been weeks ormaybe months that you will have been ecstatic and full of joy, and then it happens.  You {started|began} to wonder : Why is it this relationship is no more?  How could this have been ignored?  Was it more difficult then, or now?  These are some questions one may ask after a relationship has failed. 

Dont be fearful of loving relationships.  This is required for life health and expansion.  Almost all of you have learned from experience, that lack ofability to live in balance with another is responsible for plenty of the fears ; stresses ; and psychological diseases.  Even people that hunger for closeness and understanding often find that there is nowhere you can turn for help. 

Unable to fetch help, you may continue to engage blindly in adistressing, unsatisfactory relationship, that will sap all of your energies.  Often one will find that they lack the strength and information to meet the demands of relating. 

People have obviously not seen much from past years.  Noone has stopped to think that humans aren’t born with viewpoints regarding others one needs to be taught.  It is up to the particular person to discover new solutions and learn new patterns or relating. 

Donot be afraid!  Anything which has been learned can be unlearned and relearned.  It’s just in this process of change that real hope lays.  Take time to oneself and focus on the relationship you are needing.  Enter into the relationship aware of the advantages and disadvantages.  Never get to cosy in a relationship ; failure may be lurking around the corner.