Need Help Creating An Online Dating Profile?
Posted: July 25th, 2010 | Author: social-butterfly | Filed under: Attraction | Tags: internet dating, Online Dating & Dates | 1 Comment »The Online Dating Guru writes:
Undertstandably, online dating sites are more popular than ever. Instead of spending countless hours hanging out at singles bars, going to social activities or singles events, you just log on to your computer and find hundreds of other single adults just looking for someone to date. You can start a conversation and get to know the other person without changing out of your pajamas.
The biggest problem with internet dating, however, is creating an interesting profile. Often, this can be the most difficult part of online dating. You have to achieve an equal balance of telling others who you are and what you’re looking for in a partner while at the same time making sure that what you write will appeal to others. Unless you’re a skilled writer, this can be an extremely challenging task.
The biggest mistake most people make is writing their profile when they’re in the wrong frame of mind. Just about everyone finds it difficult to write positive things about ourselves even when we’re having a really good day, but trying to do it when you’re feeling anxious, hopeless or depressed makes it nearly impossible. Since we’re most likely to turn to internet dating just after a breakup, after a divorce or when we just don’t want to be alone anymore, very often our frame of mind is at its worst.
It’s a lot easier to start creating your profile offline. The blank screen of the dating site is more intimidating and often results in typing a few quick sentences, then pressing the “submit” button. It also helps to write your profile when you’re in a good mood and looking your best.
{Focus on just two or three positive traits that describe your personality rather than trying to provide a laundry list of all the reasons someone might want to date you.Instead of writing a long list of adjectives, try focusing on just one or two positive attributes.} For example, are you artistic and creative or are you more practical and serious? Do you prefer quiet evenings at home alone or are you more fun-loving and always on the go? Remember that your goal isn’t to write a book that tells others everything about you, but you want to say enough to get someone interested in contacting you. You want to weed out those with personalities that will clash with yours, so don’t feel compelled to try to appeal to everyone. Otherwise, you can spend a lot of time writing a few emails back and forth and never meet anyone you really like.
Next, write a few sentences that describe what you’re looking for in a partner. Don’t worry about offending others – those who are wouldn’t be a good fit for you anyway. Be specific about what you’re looking for in a partner. Of course, this step requires that you actually do know what you’re looking for. Instead of describing the person’s physical characteristics and appearance, focus on the personality traits that appeal to you. If you’re shy, for example, are you looking for someone more outgoing who will help you come out of your shell or would you be happier with someone who is equally quiet and reserved? Are you looking for someone who will interact well with your children, your pets or your friends? Describe the attributes that will make that possible. If there’s an activity you’re passionate about, be sure to indicate that you’re looking for someone who shares that passion.
Your goal isn’t to write a book about you, just keep it to three or four paragraphs. If your profile is too long, most people won’t take the time to read it. But make sure it’s more than just a few sentences, too. People need to know something about you before they’ll feel comfortable contacting you.
Most importantly, be sure you let your personality show in your profile. Be yourself and you’ll be far more likely to attract someone who will accept you for who you are.
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